I had a disturbing realization the other day while playing Mario on the Wii with a certain J. Leon Bell.
When playing Mario, if things go south (because of a Bullet Bill or Bramball or Chain Chomp), I react one of two ways: if playing with my wife, I get upset, then frustrated, then mad. If playing with someone else, I laugh it off, or at the very least, don't get upset, then frustrated, then mad.
What is the deal? I don't think I'm unique in that it is easier for me to get angry at/with family than it is at friends. There was a reason why we had to institute the "One Dollar Rule" in the Lambson household- because some of us (foremost me) get really competitive (read: angry) during games. But I venture to say that in the same situation, only with family members replaced with friends, the angry words are much slower to fly.
I don't think of myself as an angry person; on the contrary, I love to laugh, joke and smile. So why do I get angry so easily?
Why do I get mad when I can't seem to get technology that isn't working to work?
Why do I get so mad when my coworkers don't do their jobs and I have to play clean-up?
Why do I get so mad when the Cardinals lose?
Why do I get so mad at other drivers when they do things that to me are stupid and ignorant?
And why is Tamara the easiest person for me to get angry at? She should be the one with whom I am slowest to get mad. Yet I find it easy to express my anger at her, whereas with others, friends and colleagues and such, I hold my tongue. Am I the only one who sees the wrongness of that?